It Takes Tears; Finding strength in vulnerability. A year in review.

2016… good riddance! Anyone else feel the same? A year of tragic events, heartache and struggle for so many. At first I wanted to quickly slam the door and rush into the ever promising and shiny 2017. That would be the easy thing to do, right? However, there is so much to be learned from this year and doing so would be a shame. So, reluctantly I am digging into my year and sharing with you in hopes that I might inspire you to do the same.

Here is my 2016 roller coaster.

  • The growth of Mommy Essentially. This is one of the things I am most thankful for this year. My business is over 10 times the size it was a year ago and I now have a team of close to 40 incredible, talented and heart led individuals growing their own14368700_10100907088914545_7615548802484633838_n-1 beautiful businesses with me. It still blows my mind how much can happen in a year. But beyond the numbers, this business and my mentors are the reason I was able to learn so much about myself and get through this ever challenging year. I never EVER thought I would join a network marketing company much less make it my main line of work. All I can tell you is if you find the right company with the right upline support it will make you a better person, better business woman, better mom, better partner and a happier, more grateful individual. doTERRA and the people I call my uplines, mentors, business partners and closest friends truly helped me change my life this year.
  • Jaymee’s Wedding. My little sister got married! So excited to welcome Kyler Vos to our family and am grateful for his wonderful family as well. Photo credit: Bracey Photography 14457355_1181066325270190_6498206946766652645_n-1
  • Postpartum Depression. This year I learned what this really looks like, how normal it is and how it can take you 18 months to realize you have it. Digging myself out of it has been a process and one that has not been easy on me, my partner or anyone around me. However, I can confidently say I am one again happy (most days) and have a new understanding of what depression and anxiety really are and how to cope with them. I never ever thought in a million years I would struggle with this. If your frustrating or sad days outnumber the good please talk to someone about it. It shouldn’t be that way… even as a sleep deprived new mom!


  • Hudson. This year Hudson turned 2. This rascal is the most spirited little creature! He frustrates me, challenges me, amazes me and fills me with more love than I ever imagined possible. I am so grateful I get to stay home with him during the day and am learning to still be grateful even on the really bad days.
  • Michelle. On September 18th we said goodbye to Chris’s sister, Michelle Fisher at a too young, 38 years old. She tragically lost her battle with liver cancer and left behind two young boys. This has been one of the most heart breaking and tragic events to happen to our family and we are still grieving her passing. All I can say is I have 14680391_1474485840-6835learned much about the cancer industry and have an even greater desire to share the word about complimentary therapies and natural alternatives. We live in a world today where cancer rates are rising (among other diseases) and specifically in our young adults and children. Much of it is out of our control but there are so many things you can do daily to prevent it as well. Educate yourself and do the best you can to minimize your risk. I would not wish this on any family. We miss you dearly Michelle and still can’t believe you are gone.
  • doTERRA. The essential oil company that is the reason I created Mommy Essentially. It’s the reason I don’t have to go back to a 9-5 job. It’s also the thing I can no longer live without for my physical and mental health (and my family’s for that matter). It is a vehicle for change and I do it because it’s making a difference in my life, my community and our world. Teaching people about safe natural alternatives matters. It changes lives. It’s changed mine.
  • Vulnerability. If this word seems a bit foreign to you (It really was to me) I urge you to check out Brené Brown and her talks on the subject. As a strong, confident woman I always thought vulnerability had a negative context. To be honest, until my son was liborn I was the girl who never cried. This was probably the biggest lesson I learned this year and one Li Fryling can take a lot of credit for. Being vulnerable (or lack there of) has taught be countless lessons this year. And the more open, honest and heart led I am the more I see miracles happening around me. Being vulnerable doesn’t make you weak… it can empower others, create change and inspire creativity. Brené Brown says it beautifully:

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

So that’s my year. It was a big one. I cried more times than I care to count and I am so glad that I did. It was a catalyst for change and personal growth. I am stronger, my business is stronger and my relationships are stronger as a result.

2016. A lesson in vulnerability… what will 2017 bring? …I’m guessing bigger, better things all wrapped up in new personal development challenges. I’m ready for it!

Melissa – Mommy Essentially



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